Lesson is more important than the Loss
“Those that fail to learn from history are doomed to repeat it.”
As humans we have been conditioned to strive for perfection and let’s face it, no one likes being wrong.Not everything that we try or attempt can turn into a success story. Be it a personal relationship or a business venture, we keep landing on failures, losses and mistakes despite all plans and precautions. Sometimes we even land on a landmine, with huge losses of time, money and esteem. But that is one of nature’s ways to keep us grounded, create wisdom and make us an experienced crusader of this journey called life. More worthy the cause for which we are striving, more are the difficulties inherent in it. In fact one definition of success is – “the overcoming of obstacles and failures over-and-above what an ordinary mortal can, in pursuit of a worthy cause”. I strongly urge you to watch the movie “Manjhi” and you will know what I mean.
I am reminded of an interesting fictional dialogue between man and God. Man says – “O God, why did you make life so difficult, attaining success even more so?” God smiled and said – “Because you don’t appreciate easy things…!!”
When we are trying something new, something which has never been done before, we are bound to face a lot of niggling issues, and no amount of planning and preparation can foresee what may come forth to obstruct our view or way. The only way possible is through failures, mistakes and losses. Read my last blog – “Leap before you think” where this concept has been dealt with in a greater detail.
When we are doing something which is known and dealt with, it is easy to get into the trap of false confidence and an expectation of an easy ride. But one must remember that each situation is different, each occasion has its own quirks. Occasionally the path is easier than the last time, and often much more complex than the last time. In each journey, the traffic is always different on the highway. Whatever it is, it is important to begin with a thoroughly researched strategy – yet be ready to face the fact that almost nothing may go according to plan. We may have to keep modifying and restructuring the plan, sometimes even restarting with a fresh blank new sheet of paper or chart. Hence the famous saying – “Plans are useless, but planning is invaluable…!!!” Be ready to lose a few battles to ultimately win the war. Remember a certain Mr. Edison and his story of the light bulb…?
Let me not forecast only doom. Often times the results are sweeter, easier and with much better outcome than our expectations. This is not only the time to rejoice and celebrate, but after the celebrations are done with and the plates cleared, it is also time to reflect and think on “what went right” and “how it went right”. Wisdom can be gained from both good and bad experiences if we have a good “thought processing habit” installed in our mind. Take the lesson and move on. Time and tide wait for none, definitely not for those who brood over “what could have gone wrong”. Lesson is infinitely more valuable than the unexpected gain.
We all know that there is no point crying over spilt milk. Harivansh Rai Bachchan has taught us – “Man ka ho to achcha, man ka na ho to aur bhi achcha…” Meaning – “If you achieve your heart’s desire – good. If you couldn’t – even better”. Because something better must be in store. We must see the signal, read the writing on the wall, and persist, with a newer and better determination – understanding that something even better is about to happen!
Never fret over the losses you may have incurred as a result of a blighted attempt. It’s gone, its history. This emotional and monetary investment will all come back with fantastic dividends, compounded benefits and elevated wisdom for the future, once you are either able to find your way, or able to digest the failure. The losses today are just an investment into the future with fantastic returns. People who will be jeering at you today will be the ones who will boast of their association with you later in life. Just laugh off the remarks of the lesser mortals with a firm resolve to make them eat their own words.
Observe how passion for acting, hard work and strong determination helped Amitabh Bachchan overcome the difficult phase of life when he ran into bankruptcy of his production company ABCL incurring huge financial crisis.
“It was a difficult time…people who expressed desire to work with me at the peak of my career came and hurled abuses at me. When you are in such a problem, you don’t sleep at night. On one such night, I asked myself ‘Who I am’ and realized that I came here to act and should stick to it. Next morning, I went to Yash Chopra Ji and explained my problem and told him that I neither have money nor work. It was then he gave me a role in Mohabbatein and then I started again from that point,” he added.
‘Mohabbatein’ is the transition period for which he again gathered confidence and strength, He not only got out of the crisis, but more importantly, carved a completely different niche of greatness for himself which would not have been possible without the initial loss. Having overcome that loss with courage, he is today a much richer and wiser man.
Take the lesson and move on. Time and tide waits for none, definitely not for those who brood over “what could have been”. Loss is not the tragedy – not learning from it definitely is. March ahead with you chin high despite the remorse. Lesson is infinitely more valuable than the loss. Best Wishes and Good Luck.