Lesson is more important than the Loss

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Lesson is more important than the Loss

“Those that fail to learn from history are doomed to repeat it.”
Winston Churchill

As humans we have been conditioned to strive for perfection and let’s face it, no one likes being wrong.Not everything that we try or attempt can turn into a success story. Be it a personal relationship or a business venture, we keep landing on failures, losses and mistakes despite all plans and precautions. Sometimes we even land on a landmine, with huge losses of time, money and esteem. But that is one of nature’s ways to keep us grounded, create wisdom and make us an experienced crusader of this journey called life. More worthy the cause for which we are striving, more are the difficulties inherent in it. In fact one definition of success is – “the overcoming of obstacles and failures over-and-above what an ordinary mortal can, in pursuit of a worthy cause”. I strongly urge you to watch the movie “Manjhi” and you will know what I mean.

I am reminded of an interesting fictional dialogue between man and God. Man says – “O God, why did you make life so difficult, attaining success even more so?” God smiled and said – “Because you don’t appreciate easy things…!!”

When we are trying something new, something which has never been done before, we are bound to face a lot of niggling issues, and no amount of planning and preparation can foresee what may come forth to obstruct our view or way. The only way possible is through failures, mistakes and losses. Read my last blog – “Leap before you think” where this concept has been dealt with in a greater detail.

When we are doing something which is known and dealt with, it is easy to get into the trap of false confidence and an expectation of an easy ride. But one must remember that each situation is different, each occasion has its own quirks. Occasionally the path is easier than the last time, and often much more complex than the last time. In each journey, the traffic is always different on the highway. Whatever it is, it is important to begin with a thoroughly researched strategy – yet be ready to face the fact that almost nothing may go according to plan. We may have to keep modifying and restructuring the plan, sometimes even restarting with a fresh blank new sheet of paper or chart. Hence the famous saying – “Plans are useless, but planning is invaluable…!!!” Be ready to lose a few battles to ultimately win the war. Remember a certain Mr. Edison and his story of the light bulb…?

Let me not forecast only doom. Often times the results are sweeter, easier and with much better outcome than our expectations. This is not only the time to rejoice and celebrate, but after the celebrations are done with and the plates cleared, it is also time to reflect and think on “what went right” and “how it went right”. Wisdom can be gained from both good and bad experiences if we have a good “thought processing habit” installed in our mind. Take the lesson and move on. Time and tide wait for none, definitely not for those who brood over “what could have gone wrong”. Lesson is infinitely more valuable than the unexpected gain.

We all know that there is no point crying over spilt milk. Harivansh Rai Bachchan has taught us – “Man ka ho to achcha, man ka na ho to aur bhi achcha…” Meaning – “If you achieve your heart’s desire – good. If you couldn’t – even better”. Because something better must be in store. We must see the signal, read the writing on the wall, and persist, with a newer and better determination – understanding that something even better is about to happen!

Never fret over the losses you may have incurred as a result of a blighted attempt. It’s gone, its history. This emotional and monetary investment will all come back with fantastic dividends, compounded benefits and elevated wisdom for the future, once you are either able to find your way, or able to digest the failure. The losses today are just an investment into the future with fantastic returns. People who will be jeering at you today will be the ones who will boast of their association with you later in life. Just laugh off the remarks of the lesser mortals with a firm resolve to make them eat their own words.

Observe how passion for acting, hard work and strong determination helped Amitabh Bachchan overcome the difficult phase of life when he ran into bankruptcy of his production company ABCL incurring huge financial crisis.

“It was a difficult time…people who expressed desire to work with me at the peak of my career came and hurled abuses at me. When you are in such a problem, you don’t sleep at night. On one such night, I asked myself ‘Who I am’ and realized that I came here to act and should stick to it. Next morning, I went to Yash Chopra Ji and explained my problem and told him that I neither have money nor work. It was then he gave me a role in Mohabbatein and then I started again from that point,” he added.

‘Mohabbatein’ is the transition period for which he again gathered confidence and strength, He not only got out of the crisis, but more importantly, carved a completely different niche of greatness for himself which would not have been possible without the initial loss. Having overcome that loss with courage, he is today a much richer and wiser man.

Take the lesson and move on. Time and tide waits for none, definitely not for those who brood over “what could have been”. Loss is not the tragedy – not learning from it definitely is. March ahead with you chin high despite the remorse. Lesson is infinitely more valuable than the loss. Best Wishes and Good Luck.

“Leap before you Think” – Mental Framework for Pioneers

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No. It is not a misprint. Nor have I lost my marbles. Contrary to what we have been taught, I am suggesting exactly the opposite. Our life is nothing but a series of choices and decisions. From major decisions like choosing a career to daily decision of which vegetable to make for dinner, out life is mired in a series of decisions and choices. And traditionally, we have been taught to –

~ take “calculated risks” only

~ think of possible consequences before making a decision – “Soch samajh kar faisla lena…”

~ make “informed decisions”

~ avoid losses and damages of money and reputation

~ avoid looking foolish in the eyes of the world – “Char log kya sochenge?”

~ have an exit plan ready in case things don’t work out

Above list of instructions may stand true for the routine and the mundane. But for world-class citizens like us who have arrived on this Earth to make a dent in the universe and to make a novel difference to the world, to make a better life on this planet – the above list is a sure-shot recipe for mediocrity.

Remember that we miss all the chances that we don’t take. If we take decisions based on what is already known, we will only create what is already known. To create something absolutely new, or to become a pioneer in any field requires playing with the risky and the unknown.

 

 What if Sachin Bansal and Binny Bansal had played it safe and decided to open a regular book shop for incoming customers rather than risking their money and reputation on the online behemoth “Flipkart”? What if Bajaj had continued with the scooters because it appeared to be a safe business? What if Colonel Sanders had thought “Char log kya sochenge” because he was already 68 yrs old when he had this idea of a chicken recipe, and if he had not started KFC? There can be many more such examples which you can yourself recall and tell.

How can we “calculate risks” for something which has never been done before? How can we take decision “soch samajh ke” [after careful assessment of pros and cons] if we are the first in history to try out something radically new? What is there for “sochna and samajhna” [thinking and mulling over] if there is no case study, no prior experience, and no evidence of the idea having been tried out? What “informed decisions” can we take before we try out a new idea – say a revolutionary new HR policy or an incentive scheme? For something which has never happened in history, can we really have a plan to avoid losses of money and reputation?

Let’s take my own example of two Guinness world record feats. Now Guinness records are considered the ultimate in endurance and expertise. And for most in the world, thinking of bettering an existing record is absurd at best. When I decided to break it, the then record was 48 hrs and 31 minutes of marathon speech. I could have resigned before taking the risk of attempting it, as 48 hrs is too much. But not only was I able to break it to 49 hrs 39 minutes, but also absurdly take a greater risk of deciding to cross the 60 hrs. barrier in my next attempt. What if I had thought – “Char log kya sochenge” if I was unable to clock 60 hours? No one could tell if my 60 hrs pitch would succeed. I just had to take the risk and dare to do it. What informed decision could I take before attempting 60 hrs? No human had tried it before. I am glad I did – and today the Guinness world record for the “Longest Marathon Speech” stands at 60 hrs and 29 min, in the name of yours truly. I am glad that I leaped before I thought.

Not taking risk is truly the biggest risk, as the founder of Facebook Mark Zuckerberg says.

I am reminded of an epic speech “Citizenship in a Republic” delivered at the Sorbonne, in Paris, France on 23 April, 1910 which is as relevant today as it was then –

The Man in the Arena

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”

All our beliefs, choices and decisions are sourced from either of these two mind-sets –

[a] Mindset of Trust and Hope – These people have a basic propensity to trust the unknown person, situation and idea, and hope that the best will emerge from the decision. This zone is fraught with risk and possibility of failure, but the returns can be great. This mindset will fetch many victories and also many defeats.

[b] Mindset of Doubt and Pessimism – These people will never lose, but they will never win either. They will remain the cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat. These people can never create a new world, a revolution or any mind-blowing innovation ever.

I leave the reader with the choice of which of the above two mindsets to nourish and develop. One has to be bold and outgoing, dabbling with the new and the unknown to create a life full of freshness and adventure – so what if it is chequered with some mistakes, losses and failures. I learnt from my teacher and mentor “Santosh Nair” that innovation means New, Different and Better. I have ultimately realized that only when we risk failure and mistakes and losses that we are able to scale unprecedented heights of personal and public success and leadership. Or how will new things emerge? Nature’s evolution itself is a long story of trials and errors, failures and successes of new genetic expressions which has been responsible of emergence of so many exciting and beautiful species of life forms.

In the end, I leave you with this touching piece of advice from Goete.  

 

Being Unreasonable – The world depends on it

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To understand what is unreasonable, we may have to dissect the word “reason”. This is how dictionary.com describes the word –

noun

~ a basis or cause, as for some belief, action, fact, event, etc.: the reason for declaring war.

~ a statement presented in justification or explanation of a belief or action.

~ the mental powers concerned with forming conclusions, judgments, or inferences.

~ sound judgment; good sense.

~ normal or sound powers of mind; sanity.

verb (used without object)

~ to think or argue in a logical manner.

~ to form conclusions, judgments, or inferences from facts or premises.

~ to urge reasons which should determine belief or action.

verb (used with object)

~ to think through logically, as a problem (often followed by out  ).

~ to conclude or infer.

~ to convince, persuade, etc., by reasoning.

~ to support with reasons.

Idioms

~ bring (someone) to reason, to induce a change of opinion in (someone) through presentation of arguments; convince: The mother tried to bring her rebellious daughter to reason.

~ by reason of, on account of; because of: He was consulted about the problem by reason of his long experience.

~ in / within reason, in accord with reason; justifiable; proper: She tried to keep her demands in reason.

~ stand to reason, to be clear, obvious, or logical: With such an upbringing it stands to reason that the child will be spoiled.

~ with reason, with justification; properly: The government is concerned about the latest crisis, and with reason.

A careful observation of all the above data describes an interesting fact that all of it is based on the human and material events, understandings and mindsets of the Past. Any reason is based and then further straitjacketed within the narrow walls of so-called ‘Logic”, “Convention” and “principles of mathematical probability” which has been described by one or a small group of men in the past, and taken as a gospel by the following generations for centuries….until someone came along and challenged it. Like Galileo, like Wright Brothers, like Sergei Brin and Larry Page.

Let us see some of the statements of so called “reasonable” and respectable men of the past –

[a] Heavier than air “flying machines” are impossible to make…

[b] [When the telephone was invented] – It is an amazing invention, but I wonder if anyone will find it useful…

[c] “If television’s a babysitter, the Internet is a drunk librarian who won’t shut up…”

If reason is to be believed, a bumblebee cannot fly. As per the rules of physics, the weight distribution of the bee and the wingspan etc – the bumblebee “should not” be able to fly. But thank God, the bumblebee doesn’t read the textbooks of physics; it flies.

I read a great quote, interestingly in a comic book [Amar Chitra Katha]. It says – “The history of a nation is primarily the life story of a few people who believed in themselves”. This is a profound statement. God forbid, what would have happened if they had believed in the logic and the prevailing reason of what could done and what couldn’t be done?

Examples – Consider a frail old man with a belief of “Truth and Non-violence” in his heart and a prayer on his lips on one side, and the mighty British empire on the other side. What would Logic and Reason say? Yet what happened?

A 78 year old frail man who had been but a failure all his life, yet knew one great recipe for something as mundane as fried chicken… What would Logic and Reason say? Yet what happened?

Reason why we believe so much in “Reasoning”

[1] Our education system which glorifies logic and convention

[2] Culture where mistakes are ridiculed and looked down upon

[3] Culture of – “What makes you think you are the next Bill Gates…?” And dialogues like – He is Tendulkar, you are not. Pay attention to your studies”, [or] “Zyada sapne mat dekh, na tere father Ambani hai, ne teri haisiyat”.

[4] Rote textbook learning, where teachers themselves are de-motivated and marks and grades rule the roost, not imagination and initiative.

John Hopkins Carey Business School communication talks about three underpinnings of breakthrough thinking – the first being –“Good is not good enough”. This has been further compounded by Jim Collins who taught us that not bad, but Good is the opposite of Great. It also says that most failures are the failures of Imagination…how true!!! We are taught to even ration our imagination, ration our expanse of possibility and even ration our thought. So much of educational hardwiring since childhood!! This is completely head-on with the third notion of the institute which says – “Irrational self-confidence can be a good thing.” We are always taught not to be overconfident. Alas, our education system kills the very purpose of education.

You may read in the web about “The Unreasonable Institute”- a not-for –profit organization founded by a group of Gen-Y guys, namely Tyler Hartung, Daniel Epatein, Teju Ravilochan and Vladimir Dubovsky. There they encourage unreasonable, seemingly irrational thinking and hence help preserve and innovate the creativity of mavericks and thought leaders.

We as humans have four unique endowments as taught to us by Stephen Covey –

[a] Conscience

[b] Independent will

[c] self awareness, and

[d] creative imagination.

These are the four gifts we get from nature at birth. Animals don’t have it. Hence animals can act only on instinct, and their instinct is basically to procreate and propagate their species. They can be trained, but cannot be taught to imagine. It readily implies that animals can never be unreasonable.

We can hence further conclude that “being unreasonable” is a distinctly human trait which stems from the above 4 unique endowments. Its only human to be unreasonable. Any progress, and hence change brought about in this world both for the better and for worse, depending on the use of these endowments, has been brought about by thinking outside the box. It is the basis of all discovery and invention – from the wheel to the wonders of nanotechnology.

I was recently watching the beautiful film “Diana” based on the life of the famous British princess, known for her emotional quirks and ‘unreasonable’ sentiments. There is a passage in the film which says – “Beyond right and wrong, beyond convention and logic, and beyond worldly and ethereal, there is a garden; I’ll meet you there.”

On a personal note, it was very unreasonable to many when I enrolled for MBA twelve years after doing my MD. It was an unheard of thing. A mini-hell broke loose when I later enrolled for MPhil in management…!!! “Why are you doing this? Aren’t you educated enough?” “Kya karoge MPhil karke?” “Ek doctor ko management degree ka kya kaam?” But for me, this was perfectly reasonable because I had found my distinct forte by then, which lay in management, training and public speaking. It is logical for me because I discovered that “being a teacher of great credibility” is now my calling in life. In fact, in hindsight, becoming a doctor and doing MD was in fact unreasonable for me. Not only I completed my MPhil, but have enrolled for PhD as well. And have also signed an agreement with Smmart institute of Mumbai as a trainer and public speaker.

By logic, a doctor joining Smmart as a trainer is completely unreasonable, unconventional. By logic, I should keep working as a doctor and keep lamenting the lack of purpose in my life. It is in being unreasonable that I fulfill the purpose and calling of my life.

Logic is boring. It is old, it is the past; it is irrelevant for progress. Convention is restrictive. We are all bundles of pure energy, and infinite possibility should be the new world order and religion.

It is “very reasonable” to be unreasonable.

Questions Life will ask you at the End

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We live only once, and the time we spend on this Earth passes fast. In my professional and personal journey across this enigma called life, I come across both men and women who are in the twilight zone of their life. Across all communities and socioeconomic levels, I have found roughly the same painful regrets and “If-Only” about the life spent. I have compiled these insights gained for the people who are still in the prime of their life and have enough energy and motivation left in them to understand and analyze these questions, and make course corrections while the time is still on their side. Dear Friends, at the end of your time on earth, Life will ask you these questions. Make sure you have wonderful answers ready for that ultimate Day of Judgment.

 

1.     Did you follow your heart and your intuition?

 

Don’t be pushed by your problems.  Be led by your dreams.  Live the life you want to live.  Be the person you want to be remembered as, years from now.  Make decisions and act on them.  Make mistakes, fall and try again.  Even if you fall a thousand times, at least you won’t wonder what could have been.  At least you will know in your heart that you gave your dreams your best shot.

 

Each of us has a fire in our hearts burning for something.  It’s our responsibility in life to find it and keep it lit.  This is your life, and it’s a short one.  Don’t let others extinguish your flame.  Try what you want to try.  Go where you want to go.  Follow your own intuition.  Dream with your eyes open until you know exactly what it looks like.  Then do at least one thing every day to make it a reality. At the end of the road, more often than not, we regret what we didn’t do far more than what we did.

 

2.     Did you really fight for your dreams?

 

This may sound like a corollary to the first question, but it really isn’t. And as you strive to achieve your goals, you can count on there being some fairly substantial disappointments along the way.  Don’t get discouraged, the road to your dreams may not be an easy one.  Think of these disappointments as challenges – tests of persistence and courage.

 

When things don’t go right, it doesn’t mean you have to go wrong along with them.  Goals and dreams are kind of like breathing – once you give up, there’s no hope left.  Don’t do that to yourself. It’s always too early to quit.  You must continue breathing, even if it’s just a series of short, shallow breaths.  Continue putting forth even the smallest efforts to sustain your dreams.

 

Accept the fact that if you fight through the challenges, there is always a chance you might lose, but if you do not fight at all, you have already lost.

 

“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. –Eleanor Roosevelt

 

3.     Did you make a Positive Difference to this world?

 

Act as if what you do makes a difference.  It does. Is it true that we all live to serve?  That by helping others we fulfil our own destiny?  The answer is a simple ‘yes.’  When you make a positive impact in someone else’s life, you also make a positive impact in your own life.  Do something that’s greater than you – something that helps someone else to be happy or to suffer less. You are only one, but you are one.  You cannot do everything, but you can do something.  Smile and enjoy the fact that you made a difference – one you’ll likely remember forever. 

 

4.     Did the world see the Best Version of You?

 

Judy Garland once said, “Always be a first rate version of yourself instead of a second rate version of somebody else.”  Live by this statement.  There is no such thing as living in someone else’s shoes.  The only shoes you can occupy are your own.  If you aren’t being yourself, you aren’t truly living – you’re merely existing. Remember, trying to be anyone else is a waste of the person you are.  Embrace that individual inside you that has ideas, strengths and beauty like no one else.  Be the person you know yourself to be – the best version of you – on your terms.  Improve continuously, take care of your body and health, and surround yourself with positivity.  Become the best version of you.

 

5.     Did you wisely use your time on Earth, or wasted it?

 

Time is the most valuable constituent of life.  Make the time for what does matter today.  Really being in the moment, finding passion in your life, seeing the world and traveling, or just seeing the world that’s around you right now, being with great people, doing amazing things, eating amazing food and savouring life’s little pleasures. Remember, your time is priceless, but it’s free. You can’t own it, but you can use it.  You can spend it, but you can’t keep it.  Once you’ve lost it you can never get it back.  You really do only have a short period to live.  So let your dreams be bigger than your fears and your actions louder than your words.  Make your time count!

 

 6.     Did you really, really work hard enough? Could you have done more?

 

“There are no shortcuts to any place worth going.”  –Beverly Sills. When you’re young you have this fantasy that super successful adults – writers, musicians, doctors, businessmen, etc. – have some kind of magical chest of tools allowing them to build masterpieces that are larger than life.  You fanaticize about a hammer of creativity, a pliers of efficiency, a saw of wisdom, and so on and so forth. But then you grow up and you realize, for the most part, everyone is working with the same set of imperfect, rusty, old tools – desire, commitment, honesty, kindness, love, persistence, etc.  And as flawed and bent as they may be, they work wonders against the odds when you truly put them to the test.

 

 7.     Did you forgive, and Forget?

 

We’ve all been hurt by another person at some point or another – we were treated badly, trust was broken, hearts were hurt.  And while this pain is normal, sometimes that pain lingers for too long.  We relive the pain over and over, letting them live rent-free in our head and we have a hard time letting go. Grudges are a waste of perfect happiness; it causes us to miss out on the beauty of life as it happens.  To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover the prisoner was you.

 

 8.     Are you Proud of Yourself?

 

You are your own best friend and your own biggest critic.  Regardless of the opinions of others, at the end of the day the only reflection staring back at you in the mirror is your own.  Accept everything about yourself – EVERYTHING!  You are you and that is the beginning and the end – no apologies, no regrets. People who are proud of themselves tend to have passions in life, feel content and set good examples for others.  It requires envisioning the person you would like to become and making your best efforts to grow. Being proud isn’t bragging about how great you are; it’s more like quietly knowing that you’re worth a lot.  It’s not about thinking you’re perfect – because nobody is – but knowing that you’re worthy of being loved and accepted.  All you have to do is be yourself and live the story that no one else can live – the story of your own unique life.  Be proud; be confident, you never know who has been looking at you wishing they were you.

 

 

 

9.     Did you focus too much on fears and defeats, criticisms and failures?

 

Your problems are really your blessings if you use them to grow stronger.  Never quit just because you feel temporarily defeated.  You have not been beaten – this is not a competition.  Keep working to be the best you can be.  It doesn’t matter how slow you go so long as you don’t give up on yourself.

 

In the long run, it usually isn’t what you have or where you are or what you’ve been through that makes or breaks you; it’s how you think about it all and what you do next.  Focus your conscious mind on things you desire, not your fears and defeats.  Doing so brings dreams to life.

 

Probably you are playing it too safe. Pain is a pesky part of being human but it’s vitally important.  It strengthens the mind, heart and body.  You can’t grow strong, brave, or successful in this world if you’ve only had good things happen to you within the safe boundaries of your own little comfort bubble.  You need real life experiences, and nothing ever becomes real until you experience it firsthand. No matter how long you train yourself to be strong, brave, or proficient at something, you never know if you are or not until something real happens to you.  So get real, experience life and let it teach you what you need to know to conquer your wildest dreams.

 

 10. What did you discover about the world? Did you teach it to enough people?

 

For all the years you live, do you care to chronicle your life’s learning, or at least teach it to enough people? And I am not talking about passing on the knowledge to your children. That is the basic minimum. I am talking about either writing them down for posterity, taking training classes for the eager and energetic youth, creating a knowledge community of both elders and youngsters where tremendous knowledge, and energy, is exchanged on a regular basis.

 

I know not everyone can write a book, but we can surely form a community of wisdom seekers. I am doing my part by forming an NGO by the name “Shraddha Humanitarian Society”. “Shraddha” conducts training programs for young sales professionals, “Beyond Sales Program” for real estate advisors and different programs for students and insurance professionals. I convey the timeless knowledge of the books mixed with learning and experiences from my own personal and professional life in these seminars. I am also a mentor to many professionals, young and middle aged alike. I want to give back to this world the twice, and more of what I have got.

 

I am doing my part, and feel satisfied about it. I am ready to answer the questions Life will pose me at the end, on the Day of Judgment.

 

 

You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.
- Mae West

 

“Swachchata Abhiyan” – The Complete Understanding of the Cleanliness Drive

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“Swachchata Abhiyan” has really taken off and Modiji’s vision and drive have really been taken seriously by the nation – and all the cleanliness drives, celebrity endorsements, high profile activities and public enthusiasm have given it a kind of boost which no emotional appeals of the past leaders have been able to do. Of course people may have different views in relation with this drive coloured by their political and social views, but who minds cleanliness anyway? Undoubtedly, the intention and the effect of cleanliness can only be healthy and noble.

When I think of this drive, I feel and observe that the majority of us have a skewed view of the meaning and significance of cleanliness. Most of us see only a physical connotation to it. We may feel that cleanliness is keeping the body clean and the surroundings clean and free of dirt, dust and waste. That according to me is only one fourth of the big picture which this “Swachchata Abhiyan” represents.

The human life has four dimensions. The Physical dimension, or the body – is only one of them. There are three other, equally crucial dimensions. The second dimension is the Mental dimension symbolized by our brain and intelligence. The third dimension is the Emotional dimension of human life, symbolized by the heart and our relationships and productive interactions with other human beings. The fourth human dimension is the Spiritual dimension symbolized by our spirit – the we are remembered in our absence, and how we will be remembered by the world when we will leave this physical dimension. Overall, the purpose of human life is to live, to learn, to love, and to leave a legacy. Apart from the [physical] body, should cleanliness not involve the mental, emotional and the spiritual aspects of our human life also?

The Mental cleanliness must be maintained by reading great books, fine literature, watching meaningful films, watching invigorating TV programs, and interacting with people and associations where there are talks and conversations of progress, growth and success and a healthy exchange of knowledge and insights. All the mental garbage from senseless television, negativity in people and talks of hopelessness must be avoided at all costs. Our company affects us much more deeply than we realize. We become what we think.

All the knowledge and intelligence comes to a naught if the emotional component is not at place. Knowledge without the emotional maturity to use it nobly can be very dangerous – e.g. terrorists, extremists too are knowledgeable, but use it for destructive purposes. Emotional equilibrium helps us to maintain and improve relationships, use the knowledge and resources for the betterment of this world. The cleanliness drive must also reach this consideration of emotional component. If we aren’t clean emotionally, if we take relationships for granted, or use the knowledge for destructive purposes – all the physical and mental cleanliness will be useless.

 

Finally – the Spiritual cleanliness. How clean and clear are we on what we want to achieve in life? How we want to be remembered? What legacy we want to leave for the posterity? What is our life’s core purpose for which we came to this planet? What difference will the world experience as a result of our having lived on it? When we have this clarity, we will spontaneously become clean physically, mentally and emotionally – for spiritual clarity will give a clean purpose of life. Spiritually, where there is clarity – there is cleanliness – and vice versa.

In conclusion – this cleanliness drive goes much – much further than we may think. It begins as physical cleanliness, continues as mental cleanliness with the maturity of emotional cleanliness, and ends as spiritual cleanliness where we get a vision of what we will be remembered as when we are gone. It should be clean and clear in our souls that we live our life in four dimensions – to live, to learn, to love, and to leave a legacy. The actual and real benefit of this “Swachchata Abhiyan” will come to fruition only when we work on the cleanliness in all these 4 directions of our life.

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You can watch my you tube video on the same topic at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H6W6DSHeOMQ

Think only “World Class” – nothing less will do…

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Think only World Class

Nothing less will do. And yes, you are entitled to it. No one else among the billions in this world is exactly like you. Ok, there may be some people who look very much like you, but I am talking deeper here. There is no one else who has the same combination of attributes in all the four dimensions of human life as you. The four dimensions are the body, the mind, and the emotional and spiritual components.

We get deeper here. Amongst the billions of people who have come to this earth before you none was like you. And also among the billions of people who will come to this earth after you – no one will be like you. Suffices to say – you are unique – ever in the history, the present and the future taken together. The combination of your unique strengths in all 4 dimensions is unparalleled. Your combination is only the one that ever was – or will be.

What am I trying to say here? When you are unique, naturally your potential is unique. That means what you “can” do and achieve [assuming you remain focused and develop your unique strengths] is unparalleled in history. This also suggests that as each one of us is unique and different, you are meant to play a unique role in this world. The universe wants you to do “that” specific thing that will justify your birth and life on this planet.

Hence you are world class. Hence you are the “all-time best” in your combination of qualities. If you utilize your potential and become the best version of yourself, you will achieve feats unparalleled in history.  Others may try to copy you, but can never be even remotely like you. Just the way you will never go far by copying someone else. Hence if at all you think, think only BIG. Think only world class. You are made for that.

The theory of “Strengths Economy” suggests that to become world class, rather than trying to improve on our weaknesses, we must identify our unique strengths and develop them. Read Marcus Buckingham’s books “Go Put Your Strengths To Work” and “Standout 2.0” for further helping you become world class.

One life – one chance. Make it count. Make it Large.

 

“Ajeya Bharat” Project

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“Ajeya Bharat” Project

“अजेय भारत” प्रकल्प

I have introduced this concept of “Ajeya Bharat” mission for the development of the thought process of the College students of Chhattisgarh across whole section of the educational faculties. As you are aware, the human health is vastly dependant on the mental and emotional conditioning of the person. As a health personnel, I feel my primary duty is to encourage healthy living and prevention of disease among the people. Treatment and investigation of diseases is my secondary duty.

 

“Ajeya Bharat” Mission gives wings to this concept. Today’s student is unfortunately riddled with small aim, visionless life and unnecessary inferiority complex because of which he is unable to understand the importance of this great gift of life. This obstructs his progress and he gets into the mire of frustration and hopelessness which further promotes alcoholism and other tobacco related intoxications/habits. If we are able to instil a great aim, vision and a longing for a lifetime great achievement in him, if we are remove his inferiority complex, he will then strive to be consciously away from negativity and unworthy habits/activities. He will then be able to understand the importance of good education and strive for something big in life.

 

As a powerful motivational speaker, a double Guinness World record achiever and a health worker, I feel I can contribute towards the society in a big way, but for that I need your cooperation. In the next one year, I will be visiting 100 colleges of Chhattisgarh to motivate and empower the students through my seminars and talks. This will also include colleges in interior and tribal areas of Chhattisgarh. The inauguration of this project has been done on 15th Aug. 2015 and will conclude on 15th August 2016 – when a bigger, newer nationwide campaign will be launched.

 

Sir, it will be my honour and pleasure to include your prestigious institution in this noble cause. I request you to do the needful in making arrangements for one such seminar for your students, which will help us in achieving our mission of an empowered Chhattisgarh.

 

I am executing this “Ajeya Bharat” project completely with my own resources and it will be completely fee-of-cost for the students. However I have requested all the sections of the society including the administration, police and the department of education for help and cooperation in this matter. It is my firm belief that if we are able to transform the thinking of a person, there will be no doubt in the transformation of his life.

Hindi

“अजेय भारत”  प्रकल्प

प्रदेश  के युवाओं तथा कॉलेज विद्यार्थियों के उत्थान तथा उनकी उन्नत सोच को विकसित
करने हेतु कोरबा के डॉ. अजय शेष द्वारा “अजेय भारत” प्रकल्प” की घोषणा की गयी है. उनके
अनुसार मनुष्य का शारीरिक स्वास्थ्य उसकी मानसिक स्थिति तथा भावनात्मक सोच पर
अत्यंत निर्भर करता है.  एक चिकित्सक तथा एक स्वास्थ्य रक्षक के रूप में उनका काम पहले
स्वस्थ्य रक्षा करना है व बीमारियों से बचाना है . बीमार हो जाने पर दवाइयों से इलाज
करना उनका द्वितीय  कर्त्तव्य है.
 
अजेय भारत”  प्रकल्प इसी सोच  को  विस्तार  देता है.  डॉ अजय शेष के अनुसार आज
का युवा व विद्यार्थी गलत सोच, छोटी सोच, व हीन भावना का शिकार है जिसके कारण
वह इस अमूल्य जीवन के  महत्त्व को नहीं समझ पाता. अतः वह गलत सोच , विज़न का
अभाव तथा मार्गदर्शन के अभाव में या तो हीन-भावना के चलते  प्रगति नहीं कर पाता
या फिर नशे इत्यादि का का शिकार हो जाता है. अंततः यह उसके मानस व स्वास्थ्य पर
बहुत गहरा असर डालता है. अगर एक युवा की सोच सुधर जाये, उसके जीवन का एक
बड़ा लक्ष्य बन जाये, वह अपने-आप को किसी भी स्तरकी सफलता के योग्य समझने लगे,
उसमे जीवन में कुछ हासिल करने का जूनून पैदा हो जाये, तो वह मानसिक तथा
शारीरिक रूप से स्वस्थ तो रहेगा ही, वह नशे तथा नकारात्मकता का भी शिकार नहीं बनेगा.
 
डॉ. अजय शेष एक ओजस्वी प्रेरक वक्ता हैं तथा इसी वर्ष दो बार भाषण कला में
अतिविख्यात गिनेस विश्व रिकॉर्ड कीर्तिमान स्थापित कर चुके हैं. “अजेय भारत” प्रकल्प के
अंतर्गत डॉ. अजय शेष  अगले एक वर्ष में छत्तीसगढ़  प्रदेश के १०० कालेजों में विद्यार्थियों
को अपना मार्गदर्शन ओजस्वी सेमिनारों  के माध्यम से देंगे. इस प्रकल्प का उद्घाटन
 15 अगस्त २०१५ को कोरबा के मॉडर्न कॉलेज के उद्बोधन से हो चुका है . आगामी १ वर्ष में
प्रदेशके १०० कॉलेजों ( जिसमे दूरदराज तथा नक्सली अंचलों के कॉलेज  भी शामिल होंगे)
में डॉ शेष अपना सेमिनार आयोजित करेंगे.  इस प्रकल्प का समापन १५ अगस्त २०१६ को
रायपुर में होगा, जब एक नए वृहद, राष्ट्र व्यापी “अजेय भारत” प्रकल्प का प्रारम्भ किया जाएगा.
 
डॉ. अजय शेष यह प्रकल्प पूर्णतः अपने स्वयं के संसाधनों से कर रहे हैं, परन्तु उन्होंने
समाज के हर क्षेत्र, पुलिस, प्रशासन तथा शिक्षा विभाग से सहयोग की अपील की है. उनका
मानना है की यदि व्यक्ति की सोच बदल गयी, तो उसका जीवन बदलने में कोई संदेह
नहीं रहेगा.

Dr. Ajay Shesh

 

Salient features of my Guinness Record Attempt

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Salient features about the event and Dr Ajay Shesh -

[1] He is a doctor, a Pathologist who runs a chain of Pathology labs, but finds his true calling in the field of motivational education and preventive health. He is a Maharashtrian living in MP who wants to break his own world record in Mumbai.

[2] Apart from being an MBBS, MD in Pathology, he has done MBA in Marketing and MPhil in Management. Now he is pursuing PhD in Management. His idea is to become one of the most educated people of the world, not only by degree qualifications but also a wealth of knowledge which will benefit/inspire the humanity.

[3] Motivation by public speaking is his passion and he wants to become one of the top 10 trainers/motivators of the world. These Guinness world record will give him a strong platform for taking his work further at the world level by speaking, writing books and motivating a cross section of society [from poor students to businessmen]. His core purpose in Life is to “Contribute Positively to the world’s emotional Well-being and to Motivate Humanity to achieve more.”

[4] He wants to use both his expertise of medical field and skill of public speaking and management to create a revolution in the society and work in the field of Motivation and prevention of Girl Child Abuse.

[5] He runs a society “Shraddha Humanitarian Society” which helps him in doing all the above things. As you can see from the poster, this Mumbai event to break the Guinness world record is also a fund raising event and an awareness campaign for “Protecting the Girl Child: From Abortion to Abuse”.

[6] All the proceeds from this event will go not to Dr. Ajay Shesh but to “Shraddha Society”. We request to all to make this noble event of knowledge and endurance, a major success.

[7] To the best of my knowledge, such an event has never happened in Mumbai. So we request all journalists and friends to attend this with family and colleagues beyond their duty of profession. As this event will be a highly inspirational and motivational one, with lots to learn about life and work and willpower.

We are not doing an average or below par activity and trying to woo the press to give coverage to us. Dr Ajay Shesh is doing something incredible for humanity and the Girl Child, and deserves all the attention and coverage. In fact a good coverage of this event will add stars to your publication.

[8] He has already broken the Guinness record once, hence he is confident that no one will be disappointed during this event. He is currently in the process of undergoing intense conditioning [physical, mental, emotional and spiritual conditioning] for this event. He will reach Mumbai on the 22nd afternoon and will be available for talking to you till 27th when the event begins.

[9] This will be an event worth experiencing. How often in life do you see a Guinness World record being created in front of your own eyes? Please so come and support Dr. Ajay Shesh.

Thanks a lot.
Shraddha Humanitarian Society.

The Delegation of Growth

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Growth is as natural as life and death, be it the growth of a
human being or the organization which he has built. This growth can be both in
the Positive or Negative direction. The eternal issue is to maintain the
dynamic between the personal and organizational aspirations and achievements.
It is here that the war of life-vs-work or heart-vs-mind takes place. For an
educated, self-aware professional, this is the grey zone [man-vs-organization] which
is the source of maximum pain and dilemma, and becomes the bane of his midlife
crisis.

 

First lets talk of the individual vs. organization dilemma.
After a particular initial spurt of growth which is purely due the personal
efforts and charisma of the individual, growth of the organization reaches a
plateau phase. Further growth becomes more and more tedious. This is mainly
because the professional has become so busy and hassled that he hardly has time
to peep out of his daily fire fighting and the 24 hours slip by in a flash. He
has taken so much upon himself that maintaining the status-quo of the current
operations becomes a full job in itself. It is here that the professional has
to take a paradigm shift, and look at himself and his organization from differential
perspectives. Because now the organization [true to its name] has become an
organism in itself, and like a child, has its own specific needs. It is no more
a mere extension of the professional who built it. I will explain it as
follows.

 

The individual may not have the desire to upgrade his
business skills, but the organization needs constant up-gradation of business
knowledge to even survive. The individual may not be adept in computers and IT,
but the growing organization does need strong IT and software systems for
smooth working. The individual wants a 15 day vacation [and is truly justified
to take it], but his organization go on a vacation or remain closed for those
15 days. The individual does not want to maintain elaborate accounts and
tax-planning measures, but the organization needs a solid, transparent accounts
department backed by IT and a great accountant. The individual does not want to
be disturbed after 7 pm [justifiably so], but his organization has to keep
serving clients 24X7. The individual has no desire to have a web presence, but
his organization does need a decent website and downloadable e-brochure. The
individual has no time to open new centers or develop a franchise chain for
expansion, but the organization badly needs geographical spread to increase the
turnover. I can site multiple such examples where the personal desires and
fancies of the individual may stall the growth of his own organization.
Ironically, gradually the individual becomes the biggest enemy of the growth of
the same organization which he has so pain-stakingly built.

 

It is here that the concept of Delegation is crucial. As the
business expands, the individual cannot run and handle all departments, and yet
find time to manage growth. For each of the departments and sections of his
organizations, he must now deploy able professionals of that relevant field, and
leave the job to them, ensuring alignment with the organizational values. He
has to become professionally ruthless, and even may have to let go of his older
comrades, equipment and vendors, if they are not in alignment with this new
growth initiative. He has to let go of his belief that he is best at
everything, and knows everything about the business and the markets. In fact
the individual must also find his own replacement to work in his absence,
during his tours, even death! For the organization cannot die if the founder
dies. Letting go of this control can be physically, financially and emotionally
very taxing for the individual, but he must go through this pain to ensure a
smooth transition to this “Delegation of Growth”. The returns supremely exceed
the investments so made. The individual must identify between the “Revenue
Generating” and the “Non-Revenue-Generating” activities, and firmly, resolutely
concentrate only on the former. Remember that what brought you ‘Here’ will not
take you ‘There’.

 

This how the seed of a potential Infosys is built, this is
how an “LG” was built. Teamwork and delegation is the crux of all great success
stories.

 

Just do it. You have “One Life, One Chance” to pull it off.

Interview : Central Chronicle

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Some people have an enigma around them, chiefly due to the multiple facets they possess not
only in their personality but also in their areas of interest and work. The
life and personality of Dr Ajay Shesh epitomizes this to the hilt. This doctor,
a Pathologist by profession, not only dons the hat of a medical professional,
but also that of a Public Speaker, Trainer, Coach, Entrepreneur, Author and a
fairly good singer. He is MBBS and MD in Pathology, is a Management
Professional with an MBA in Marketing and is currently pursuing MPhil to be
followed by PhD later on. He is the founder and CMD of the well known
diagnostic chain – “Renuka Diagnostics” presently operating across 4 districts
of Chhattisgarh through its Pathology Laboratories and multiple collection
centers. He is a very sought after speaker in various educational institutes
and Corporates. And if this is not enough, he is also the Admin Head of
Meditrance India Pvt. Ltd., a Hospital consultancy firm, and runs his own NGO,
named Shraddha Humanitarian Society which works for student upliftment and
health education, medical camps etc. He is an avid reader and a blogger, a keen
observer of human behavior, and ready to enlighten anyone with his experience
and widespread knowledge. “Anyone who comes in contact with me must feel two
steps elevated when he departs”- is his mantra for human interaction. Our
correspondent [. . . . . .] was able to corner this charming personality for a
Tete-a-tete in his lab at Korba where he presently resides. The excerpts of the
discussion are as follows.

 

Your
business card indicates wide areas of engagements ranging from Pathologist to
Business to Public speaking to writing/blogging to NGO to Hospital Consultation.
This is very rare among medical practitioners who are known to be busy single
track souls. How do you manage to don so many hats without any visible sign of
stress? Also, how do you manage to remain so cool among all these professional,
personal and business pursuits?

Thanks for
the kind words. All these pursuits may appear to be multiple on the outside,
but have a common ground in the basic human desire to be a man of influence and
a wish to make a Positive difference to this world in my own little way. I wish
to create a team of diverse minded yet united individuals, a team of capable
and hardworking people who will help each other to achieve their dreams. I am
just the captain. It is the teamwork which does and manages everything from
labs to the NGO. It was not a conscious decision to don many hats simultaneously,
but as capable people keep joining the group, the influence and structure
expands both formally and informally.

 

You
sure believe in continuing your education. After completion your MBBS and MD in
Pathology, you took the fellowship of academy of general education [FAGE], and
then this MBA in marketing. It is bewildering to note that you are presently
pursuing MPhil in Management and have already planned on completing PhD later
on? This is apart from the various Certification Courses you have done over the
years in Quality Systems and Management. Where will this end? Why are you
acquiring these qualifications with such a vengeance?

Firstly let
me express my firm belief that degrees and certifications are only formal
recognitions of completion of certain courses. They do not necessarily mean an
improved person or personality.  I want
to emphasize that education is a never ending process, and that knowledge knows
no bounds. I don’t consider these degrees and certifications a big deal. These
will mean nothing if they don’t contribute to making an ultimately better
world. Education is different from Knowledge. Knowledge is just the awareness
of certain facts. But being educated is a mindset – a mindset of creativity. An
educated person is one who uses knowledge and experience to create something
new, better or different. For example, a farmer who uses his farming skills and
experience to improve the harvest from the same acreage of land is far more
educated than an Agriculture Science post-graduate who has never raised a
harvest on his own. Education is possible without formal knowledge, but
knowledge without education can be even dangerous. A Sachin or a Lataji may not
have big degrees, but will you call them any less educated? Coming back to your
question about my qualifications, I would like to be considered Educated;
rather than just qualified degree holder.

 

How
did you develop interest in the realm of Self Improvement genre of development
and Management Training? We’ve come to know that you have a great interest in
both attending, and conducting Training Programs. What are your areas of
interest in these fields?

I happened
to come across the book “7 Habits of Highly Effective People” by Dr. Stephen
Covey in 2003. That book absolutely changed my paradigms and thought processes
about life and work. Even today, every time I re-read the book, I am stunned at
the simple yet powerful lessons therein. Later on when I read “The 8th Habit”
book, I was hooked on to the self-improvement and organizational improvement genre
of books and living. I then attended the Franklin-Covey seminars, and many
other Training events. I soon found a lifetime’s calling in this field. Being a
public speaker myself [thanks to my mother who encouraged me to go on to the
stage since early childhood]; I took to conducting my own training programmes.
I am also presently attending the Gurukul Course of Santosh Nair’s Smmart
Consultancy in Mumbai.

 

How
did you develop interest in Entrepreneurship? Wasn’t being a successful private
practitioner and a prominent social figure enough for you? Business and medical
practice are two very different fields isn’t it?

Somehow I
always felt that I was not meant for a single-clinic private practice. With the
ever increasing competition, unfair competition and competition from
unqualified quacks, not to mention competition from big Corporates having deep
pockets, I always felt like building our own corporate, considering the talent
and good people which we have and are joining us. Considering the dizzying speed
of changing business environment, changing healthcare scenario and
technological advancement, yesterday’s and today’s success will not guarantee
tomorrow’s success for sure. Hence the plunge into the very difficult yet
thrilling realm of entrepreneurship. It is a tough yet fulfilling life, and the
business keeps you on the edge and on your toes constantly. I am sure it is a
very good choice for our organization’s future. One must try to build a
king-size life, no matter how difficult it is in the beginning. I am reminded
of Stephen Covey’s quote- “We must all suffer from one of the two pains: the
pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is – discipline weighs
ounces, while regret weighs tons”. I don’t want to regret later on in life that
when youth and time were on my side, I didn’t strive enough.

 

Tell
us something about Renuka Diagnostics and how you developed it into a chain of
Labs and a private Limited Company.

I completed
MD in Pathology in 1998 and started Renuka Diagnostics in Korba as a private
practitioner. Luckily I got a good break and started many collection centers to
cater to a wider patient base. Then we started a small center at Champa, then
Raigarh, and encouraged by the initial success, formed “AshVik Health Pvt Ltd
which is the company which manages the labs and the brand of Renuka
Diagnostics. We are working across four districts now. We struggled like hell
while managing the above expansion, and are struggling on many fronts even
today, but when I look at our grand Vision of developing into the largest chain
of Pathology Diagnostics in the country, these obstacles of today seem
inconsequential.

 

Today
Medical Profession is mired in various controversies, with the Noble profession
being drawn into various deplorable accusations – sex determination, organ
trafficking, the recent hysterectomy [uterus] fiasco etc. Is the medical
profession deteriorating for the love of easy money?

I would only
say that there are black sheep in every profession of this world, across all humanities.
I will keep mentioning about such practices in my subsequent blogs and in my
column [One Life, One Chance] in this newspaper. We need to understand that
money can at best be an ally, not a purpose of life. The purpose of any
profession is and can only be self fulfillment and a means, not the end.

 

You
are also an avid reader, writer and a blogger. Tell us more about this.

Another of
great habits my mother inculcated in me in my childhood was the habit of
Reading. I have more than 1000 books in my private library today, and the
collection is growing. When I like a book, I am restless till I have purchased
it, read it and marked it heavily so that next time over I can read the jist of
the book in under an hour. I created a blog ajayshesh.net/blog about a year
back, and keep penning my thoughts in it apart from the social networking
sites. Exchange and communication of sincere thoughts is a beautiful thing – be
it through training, writing, reading or blogging.

 

What
is your take on the role of life partner and family in a man’s professional
life? How much has been your immediate family instrumental in shaping what you
are today, and in your projected future tomorrow?

I see this
in two ways – one in the context of universal family [Vasudhaiv Kutumbakam]
where each person of this world has a specific purpose in your life and that
person will come and go and play his part in your life as per our creator’s
plan which we have to understand. Not all are able to do this. The whole
village makes a man. And here we mean the global village in today’s context. It
does not matter whether this person has met you or not, whether he is a blood
relative or not. We all can influence the life of every other person in the
universe by the way we live our own life. I would make a special mention of Dr
Amit Mishra and Dr B.P. Singh, MD, MBA, who are heading our company operations
at Bilaspur. My other comarades – Ravishankar Singh, Rajesh Sahu, Harish Puri
Goswami and Rohit Yadav are my family – we are all set to conquer the world.

 

Without
getting too philosophical let me come to the other view of family – my
biological family. Needless to say, they are a pillar of strength for whatever
I do today and will become tomorrow. My wife Neeta Shesh and daughter Astha
make this life worth living by giving me a strong purpose to thrive.

 

Where
does life go on from here? Where and in what roles can we see Dr Ajay Shesh in
the coming five, ten and twenty years?

We have a
huge Vision [Big Hairy Audacious Goal] of creating the nation’s largest chain
of Diagnostic Clinical [Pathology] Labs by 29th January, 2022
through the franchise route. Our mission is to upgrade the level of clinical
work-up of a patient by our principle based laboratory diagnostic work. On a
personal front, I want to become one of the top Trainers and Motivational
Speakers of the country within the next decade. Myself, our company and our
leaders are on their way already, despite all the current problems. As my
friend and colleague Vikram Gambhir of Scientific Traders would say
–”Don’t plant a Tomato seed. If you do plant, plant a banyan tree which
will live on for posterity, till long after you are gone”.

 

Any
Final Message?

Yes. For all
the Central Chronicle readers, consider this – “The only things you take with you
when you die are the things which you leave behind”. Make sure you leave behind
a legacy.